• Taleya@aussie.zone
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    7 days ago

    For the uninformed: this is a direct response to a post saying that obtaining sex by deception is sexual assault. Which, y’know, it is.

    No, makeup doesnt fucking count you unmitigated arsehole.

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      I greatly prefer her WITHOUT the make-up. I would talk to the girl on the right, I wouldn’t bother with the one on the left.

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    So what about a guy with a sock stuffed in his pants? If a woman has sex with that guy, and his dick isn’t as big as he advertised, is that sexual assault?

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    7 days ago

    My fucking god rage bait travels at light speed.

    Females

    Whoever’s addressing women like that is clearly ragebaiting. Stop giving these morons attention. This is not content meant for manosphere, it’s meant to ragebait all young women. If this makes your blood boil you are the freaking target audience. Stop playing in their games.

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        My bad I didn’t see the community. This one was making rounds on every social media platform and it got really infuriating. But yeah perfect fit for this community lol.

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    9 days ago

    I prefer the look on the right… I don’t really need women to look like a Star Trek character

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    9 days ago

    Oh no! Shes beautiful naturally and yassed up!? The fucking horror! My steak, my steak is far too juicy. Oh this lobster! Waiter! Far too much butter!

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    9 days ago

    If you look at the left one and can’t tell, that’s on you …

    Also, I hate current makeup trends. Uncanny valley type of shit

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      As someone who doesn’t keep up on make up trends, I’m not sure what you mean.

      Can you point to any examples?

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        TBH I’m not super knowledgable about makeup, but the look on the left side, or something more or less like it, is pretty common in like celebrity spaces, porn etc., and it definitely wasn’t quite like this 20 years ago. Maralago face is one variant, but the general style seems broader than that to me.

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          Did not know Maralago face was a thing, but I know exactly what you mean.

          My (ultra-MAGA) father won’t shut up about how “drop dead gorgeous” Melania Trump is…but when i look at her, she looks like she’s made of plastic.

          Not to necessarily knock the look; it must work for some people, and if that’s how you prefer to look, don’t let me shit on your day. That said, it’s not for me and I’m glad my partner prefers a more au natural look.

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        The left picture is a pretty good example. I don’t know any of the terminology but it seems to revolve around trying to make it look like they have maralago face. Just ends up looking unnatural to me.

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    9 days ago

    This argument is stupid either way of course… But I find the picture on the right way more attractive.

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      Agreed in a 100 % non-objectifying way (as you are as well). Velma can go kick rocks.

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      But I find the picture on the right way more attractive.

      “Don’t worry, ladies! This incel finds you ugly, but I find you attractive!”

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        People like you do more harm than good for the cause you’re fighting for. You are a living caricature of what actual incels use to justify their rotten worldview.

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          7 days ago

          She imitates the TV show with the same name.

          Just commenting because I recently told her about the same - this was not a single blunder, this is how she is.

          But once you recognize the username, you also realize there’s the wisdom/balance missing that people usually get when becoming adults. She might be 80 for all I know, but I haven’t seen a single comment that wouldn’t fit for a teenager.

        • velma@sh.itjust.works
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          9 days ago

          If one person on the internet being a feminist killjoy is enough for you to disavow feminism, you were never supportive of it to begin with.

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            Lol, I’m not disavowing feminism. Your comments won’t change the mind of anyone who already had an egalitarian mindset - but in aggregate lots of comments like yours push away people on the fence, and entrench those who are already in a bad place.

            If a woman made an equivalent comment about the before and after shots of a guy getting in shape or something it would rightfully not draw any ire. Jumping down the throat of every guy who expresses their preferences about women is not going to win us any allies.

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              Who said anything about changing anyone’s minds? She’s merely pointing out that blunderworld’s comment is still objectifying women. The up/downvote ratio says a lot about the Lemmy crowd that they should be ashamed of.

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                If a woman had made an identical comment about a dude posting with/without makeup photos it wouldn’t have drawn any ire.

                It wasn’t objectification. He never insinuated that her looks were all that mattered, or that she wasn’t a unique snowflake of a person - he simply mentioned his own preference about makeup.

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                  he simply mentioned his own preference about makeup.

                  He mentioned his own preference about the woman pictured in the meme.

                  If a woman had made an identical comment about a dude posting with/without makeup photos it wouldn’t have drawn any ire.

                  It should draw ire.

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              I don’t have an inherent responsibility to be the nicest, most kind woman ever in order to get people to understand and support feminism and women’s rights. I’m a person on the internet with strong opinions. That’s it.

              If you want to believe that a single feminist killjoy on the internet is solely responsible for winning allies in the fight for women’s rights, that’s on you. I’m just pissed off at the audacity of people commenting on women as if they’re objects to be dolled up (or not) to look nice for men.

              Believe it or not, women are allowed to be angry. And I don’t care what y’all think.

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                No, you don’t have any responsibility per se, but you should know your comments come off more misandrist than feminist, and actively harm the cause. You are the embodiment of the shrieking feminazi strawman that incels joke about - and I’m not convinced you aren’t a larping incel trying to push their conspiracy that feminism = man-hating.

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                  If you took one look at my post history, you’d know I’m not a larping incel. I don’t push that feminism = man hating.

                  I’m allowed my opinions same as any other anonymous person on the internet. Again, if my comments are enough to put someone off of feminism, they were never supportive of women’s rights to begin with.

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      i mean the makeup sucks, frankly. I don’t understand why it has become normal to dip your head in a bucket of concealer…
      Feels like the equivalent of guys who think more muscle == more betterer until they just look like balloon animals.

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        It’s not to look attractive, it is so you can have fun looking the way you want. That goes for both situations. A side consequence is if you focus on looking how you want, you will attract people who like you the way you look when you feel your best.

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      You do realise you’re not winning ‘good man’ points by saying stuff like this, right? You’re literally just adding to the misogyny here by further objectifying women.

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        Very few people in this thread are capable of understanding that offering judgment on this woman’s appearance is still objectifying her.

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          I am getting so tired of the internet lately. I appreciate seeing you around but idk how you still have the will to talk to any of these people, the toxicity of these men is starting to feel like I’m stewing in poison.

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            Speaking up when I see casual sexism like this helps heal the years of my life when I was taught to be quiet and allow “boys to be boys”.

            It’s really understandable how people get sick of seeing this type of toxicity. I hope your day has more good, funny, quirky, weird, and fun things pop up instead of gestures at this thread

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      Part of it is she’s authentically smiling and joyful without the makeup instead of doing that forced neutral “Paris Hilton” kind of look with the make-up.

      Turns out when people are happy and in a good mood they’re more attractive. Who knew?

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        It’s almost liberating to realize that beauty is not the same as attractiveness.

        Someone can look below average, but have a shining, friendly personality that makes them attractive as hell!

        No matter the gender, either- I’m not a particularly handsome man, but I can tell you that sparking joy works.

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      My husband just said, “If you think the one on the right is not an attractive woman, maybe you’re gay. Like, you should just be looking for dudes.”

      Maybe she’s not your exact type, but surely we can all agree that she very much fits the bill for what a large majority of people would traditionally consider pretty.

      I am personally not a fan of the highly-made-up trend, so I do think that she’s more attractive without the makeup. But I also understand why people like wearing makeup, and it’s her right to do it or not depending on her mood. I think anyone who can’t tell that she’s wearing makeup in the photo on the left is (a) lying or (b) a child.

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      Left looks like generic vapid bimbo, like what you would get if you typed ‘vapid bimbo’ in gen AI.

      Right looks like a person.

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      Maybe it’s cultural, but “woman” can sound “old” to some people, and “girl” can sound “young”.

      Some guys think its respectful to sidestep the whole issue and use an age neutral term, unaware of how it sounds.

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          from my personal experience

          Yes, exactly.

          I’m telling you as a matter of fact that I know people who felt awkward saying “woman” because of the age factor.

          These guys aren’t incels by any means, they’re just awkward and naive.

          For what it’s worth I did tell them that “female” is not a good look, and they should use “women” instead.

          The point is not every guy who says “female” is an incel.