MystValkyrie

I want to gently pose a counterargument that hopefully doesn’t lead to folks assuming I’m scolding them. Remember that we’re free to disagree with each other and, in the grand scheme of the universe, comments posted on a forum don’t really matter.

So, if a person posted a picture of themselves in two dresses and inviting the comparison, it’s absolutely okay for someone to say “I like the one on the left.” That’s great! However, I believe the context changes when it’s a post where a man posts two pictures of someone who is not himself, in this case a woman, and says she ought to present herself in a specific way. Similarly, I believe that a post screenshotting the man’s post to have some sort of discussion about his expressed beliefs changes the context as well. Your argument about the dresses, therefore, feels like a false equivalence.

I believe it is 100% okay for either gender to respectfully express attraction to women in the right time and place. It did feel a bit out of place here for men to express a normative statement about this woman when the entire point of the post was criticizing men doing that. YMMV on which commenters were doing this versus simply expressing a non-normative preference, but I felt like one or two may have unintentionally reproduced a (much less extreme) version of what the Jeremy was saying in the meme. It’s okay to have preferences, and if people want to talk about the types of women they’re attracted to, there are many other posts and communities where it would make more sense. But hey, it’s a free internet and I’m not the thought police. Just a girl expressing an opinion.

“I think she’s attractive” or “I don’t personally think she’s attractive” = okay “She looks like a fat cow” = not okay

I don’t personally believe this is gender-specific, or subscribe to the idea that women are allowed to thirst over women publicly and men aren’t, but we ought to all be on the same page that it’s not okay to compare a woman to a cow, and so therefore no hypocrisy occurred. Just consider time and place, and be respectful, and it’s fine.

Velma is calling out a concept she finds problematic and not any specific person, and others are over here calling her unintelligent, an “arrogant ass,” and a “wokescold.” And in the same breath, you’re saying she’s the one personally attacking people. I think you’ve contradicted your own argument by name-calling.

It’s okay to disagree, but let’s try to stay civil while we do that.