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“Fuck lawns” energy, but for graveyards. (no not like that, stoppit!)
Or postmortem services in general. If you want to give something to someone, do it when they’re still around to appreciate it. Once they’re dead, they won’t give a fuck about the fancy funeral or coffin or w/e you bought for em.
I am tempted to agree with you, I mean we’re going to run out of graveyard space if we keep it up. We need something like crypts for all the graves from several hundreds of years ago to move into, and then we need to keep on moving people from graveyards into crypts ad infinitum - this way we could still provide graveyard space to people who are remembered by living relatives. I’d say the cut-off could be 3 or 4 generations.
Of more importance to peoples’ descendants long term is having good documentation of who their ancestors were, when they were born, married, and died (see websites like: https://www.freebmd2.org.uk/ , if you need this information yourself. this one is UK and i don’t know about any american one, sorry.)
As long as you have that information for your records, a grave for your great great great something is not important.
But there’s just something so strangely beautiful about the thought that on a certain planet in the middle of nowhere, there is a species of animal that buries their dead in groups all facing the same direction. No one is quite sure why they do this, not even them
I took a folklore class once where we visited a graveyard and had to write about graveyards as if explaining it to a culture that has no idea what they are. One of my classmates took the opportunity to express how stupid he thought graveyards were.
Everyone gets together for an event that’s seen as important, comforting things are said, then everyone goes and eats together and tells each other stories about the person they lost. Seems like a great way to go about it to me.
Eh, there’s a line to be sure. if folks want to have a potluck in remembrance of a loved one, I have have zero issue with that. I guess it’s more the industry surrounding it that offends me - the expensive venue, specialty vehicles, the resources dumped into making a fancy box to keep the corpse in, and then just bury, and ofc the insanely wasteful use of land to give basically housing to corpses. It all feels very exploitive, like you ‘owe’ your dead mom the nice polished marble tombstone. …and I’m here to tell you, your dead mom doesn’t give the tiniest shred of fuck what her tombstone’s made out of. Or that she has a tombstone at all.
Graveyards are a waste of land. In many areas, embalming chemicals leach out and poison the water table. If you must use the land for mourning, cremate the body, bury the cremains, and plant a tree.
“Fuck lawns” energy, but for graveyards. (no not like that, stoppit!)
Or postmortem services in general. If you want to give something to someone, do it when they’re still around to appreciate it. Once they’re dead, they won’t give a fuck about the fancy funeral or coffin or w/e you bought for em.
I am tempted to agree with you, I mean we’re going to run out of graveyard space if we keep it up. We need something like crypts for all the graves from several hundreds of years ago to move into, and then we need to keep on moving people from graveyards into crypts ad infinitum - this way we could still provide graveyard space to people who are remembered by living relatives. I’d say the cut-off could be 3 or 4 generations.
Of more importance to peoples’ descendants long term is having good documentation of who their ancestors were, when they were born, married, and died (see websites like: https://www.freebmd2.org.uk/ , if you need this information yourself. this one is UK and i don’t know about any american one, sorry.)
As long as you have that information for your records, a grave for your great great great something is not important.
Logically what you’re saying makes perfect sense.
But there’s just something so strangely beautiful about the thought that on a certain planet in the middle of nowhere, there is a species of animal that buries their dead in groups all facing the same direction. No one is quite sure why they do this, not even them
I took a folklore class once where we visited a graveyard and had to write about graveyards as if explaining it to a culture that has no idea what they are. One of my classmates took the opportunity to express how stupid he thought graveyards were.
All post death stuff is for those still living, to
phelp them cope*edit: I’m a careless typer
Functionally yes, but those partaking generally see it as a gesture for the deceased, not therapy in disguise.
I’m all for therapy, it’s just the way we go about it in this context is stupid and wasteful.
Everyone gets together for an event that’s seen as important, comforting things are said, then everyone goes and eats together and tells each other stories about the person they lost. Seems like a great way to go about it to me.
Eh, there’s a line to be sure. if folks want to have a potluck in remembrance of a loved one, I have have zero issue with that. I guess it’s more the industry surrounding it that offends me - the expensive venue, specialty vehicles, the resources dumped into making a fancy box to keep the corpse in, and then just bury, and ofc the insanely wasteful use of land to give basically housing to corpses. It all feels very exploitive, like you ‘owe’ your dead mom the nice polished marble tombstone. …and I’m here to tell you, your dead mom doesn’t give the tiniest shred of fuck what her tombstone’s made out of. Or that she has a tombstone at all.
Graveyards are a waste of land. In many areas, embalming chemicals leach out and poison the water table. If you must use the land for mourning, cremate the body, bury the cremains, and plant a tree.
Human cremains are too acidic to make good growing soil.
Mulch the body, bury the mulch, plant a tree.
we’re probably too salty too.
human composting has come a long way. it’s what i want them to do with me after the med school is done learning whatever they can.
“cremains”, nice. Its not often anymore that I learn a (real) new word. Thank you kind sir or madame.