I can’t
This seems to fall into the Thanks! I’m cured! category, but I have gotten better over time at estimating how long it takes me to travel places.
If i leave earlier then i don’t rush resulting in me being just as late.
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They call it early maxing. Get with the lingo boomer headline.
Latecels getting timemogged by earlymaxxers.
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Thats crazy talk.
I had a job where I was supposed to arrive at 8:00am. According to maps & normal traffic patterns, it should take me 25-30 minutes to get there from home.
If I left home at 7:30 it would usually take me 35 minutes and I would invariably arrive at 8:05am. Late.
No problem, leave earlier, right?
If I left at 7:25am it would take me 40 minutes and I would arrive at 8:05am.
If I left at 7:15am it would somehow take me 50 minutes and I would arrive 8:05am.
If I left at 7:00am …you guessed it, it would take me 65 minutes and I would arrive 8:05am.
It’s like I was destined to be there at 8:05am.
Eventually I negotiated with my boss to be there at 8:30am instead. I stared leaving my house at 7:45am and I’d usually get there by 8:15am. Early!
It was just the way the traffic worked out in my commute.
Because the roads are busier as people are trying to get there for the same time as you. If you leave later you are joining the end of that traffic, as it dies down. If you leave earlier you just become part of that traffic.
Either way, you are getting there at 8.05
Mine was the same way. trying to be there by 9AM meant that my hour commute, I should leave by 8. nope! and then 7:45? nope! how about 7:30? nope! even MORE traffic! I had to leave at 7, and if I was lucky, I’d sail right past the spot that usually had a massive traffic jam, and then I’d get into the office almost 45 minutes early 🙃 . But leaving at 7:15 would either get me there just on time, or 30 minutes late. It was nightmarish. Thank god I’m remote. (well actually thank me and my trauma therapist for filing out the proper AMA paperwork making me remote)
I combine that with making sure my friends know I struggle with time dilation and so I make sure to give an eta when I’m out the door
I’ll just be slower because I’m not as stressed
Booo, Everyone else should just accept that I’m going to be at least a half an hour late
Accept that you don’t care about others’ time, got it.
If you want me to arrive on time you need to tricking into thinking the appointed time is 15 minutes earlier than when it really is.
So… it actually is your fault that I’m late, really.
It’s my destination’s fault for being too far away
Distance affects your timing? Personally if mine is further away my instinct to procrastinate just gets stronger
“Man, I wish it wasn’t so hard to get up in the morning.”
“Try going to bed earlier.”
“NO!!!”
Whole life I had a very hard time waking up. Early just wasn’t for me.
Then I woke up to the house burning down around me, trapped in a basement.
Now I wake up between 5:30 and 6:00 am every morning without an alarm clock, in fight or flight mode, so I don’t even need coffee.
Not a solution that’s right for everyone.
Sweet jebus, I’m sorry to hear that. You’re absolutely right though: “have you tried PTSD?” may not be right for everyone.
Umm. Sorry man. There are some good meds that can help with that, like Prazosin, which blocks norepinephrine, which is the fight-or-flight chemical. It also blocks nightmares from being remembered if taken at bedtime. And it keeps your blood pressure like, textbook perfect. If you have a doc you can ask. Good luck. I have PTSD which used to cause the same thing you have.
Growing up in a time where seeking mental health was heavily stigmatized, I haven’t sought any professional help for this. “Man up” and “Tough it out” was the rule for anything short of broken bones.
You are not the first to suggest getting help, but are the first who’s had similar experience.
I think it’s time I “Man up” and admit I need help, thank you
Good on you for admitting you need help. For what it’s worth DBT has been helping my wife stop waking up in terror in the middle of the night as much if you’re interested in non chemical solutions (neither course is bad)
You can get in bed earlier it doesn’t mean you’ll fall asleep
Stick to a consistent sleep schedule and regulate caffeine intake to less than 400mg
But also there are people that may need medication or just simply people that can’t do anything
Blackout curtains may also be necessary depending on when you need to be up
How would you even begin to know your caffeine intake
i feel theres also a pretty large variance in the population of caffeine sensitivity.
A cup of drip coffee is 150-200 on average. Multiply based on a pessimistic interpretation, then reduce.
You could also measure UV light absorbtion in the 260-280 nm band and compare to a calibration chart. That seems a lot more excessive than just estimating and working to reduce, as opposed to targeting a specific number.
Caffeine pills. Alternatively, basically the same way you do alcohol
Basic math? Are you unaware of how much coffee/tea/soda you consume in a given period or did you forget the /s?
I’m aware of the amount of coffee, but unaware of the caffeine content in that coffee
Coffee averages about 12mg per ounce. A quick estimate is better than nothing, so you can assume you should keep it below 36 oz per day, or 4 mugs, size dependant.
Filter coffee is around 150mg caffeine per cup.
Espresso 80mg per shot.
Thst should get you through the math of caffeine intake.
There’s a huge variance around this though. Size of cup, amount of ground coffee used, variety of coffee (robusta has much higher caffeine than arabica), how roasted it is… It might be around 150 mg per cup, but could easily be nearly half or nearly double that.
In my experience, judging from the subjective felt effect when drinking it, the amount of caffeine in filter coffee can vary by a factor 3x depending on brewing technique. I just came back from the U.K. and the hotel breakfast coffee there did less for me in three cups than a single cup from my Fellow Aiden coffee brewer at home. I used to cold brew coffee but had to stop because the apparently higher caffeine content gave me heart problems.
Making a habit will make it easier though
or you could get a job that starts midday
Yeah, those grow on trees.
wherever i went, bus/trolley drivers were needed and it pays pretty well too
I find that having a cat that religiously wakes you up somewhere between 6 and 7 every morning to be an incredibly effective bedtime retrainer. There’s only so many months you can be sleep deprived before going insane or collapsing.
He’s starting as early as 4 or 5 these days, Kitty please let me at least sleep until the alarm 🫠
That’s my cat now.
But my prior cat would sleep on my chest, forcing me to be even more late.
Mornings have their own golden rule:
Thou shall be sidetracked by random bullshit every goddamned time.
Humbug