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Could also be that those kinks already exists in our minds undiscovered and is what creates the draw toward these particular shows in the first place.
Though, most people here are talking about crushes which is a different thing. Personally I really stuggle to draw a line from a kink I have to a show I watched in childhood.
Kink is more about what is considered non-normative than anything. Half of what makes a kink kinky is that it’s not something other people normally do. Nobody thinks oral sex is kinky anymore, and increasingly, bdsm and anal are being normalized to the point they are no longer kinks, whereas 30 years ago they would be considered deviant sexual behavior.
Apparently, “kink”, “fetish”, and “things I like in a slightly sexual way, or even just obsess over” all mean the same thing now. Oh, and “obsess” is another such word.
This is one reason it’s so hard to communicate clearly.
You can say something and someone else interprets it, and they make all the noises to suggest that they understand what you said, but it’s very difficult to be certain that you’re both thinking the same thing. All too often the same words mean something very different to people.
People also use words more loosely in some contexts and more strictly in others. Like the expressions you mentioned could all basically be synonyms in most contexts, but if you were talking to a sexual partner or a sex therapist, you’d probably want to be more exact with the words you use.
But here’s the issue, how do you know how exact someone is being when they’re talking to you? If you’re guessing at their level of precision, then you’re only guessing at their actual meaning. Problematic.
a lot of people also just like being upset and deliberately misinterpreting you for the dramatic high it gives them. especially about something as emotionally charged as sex.
just look at ‘body count’ and how people react to that. my body count makes me a total prude to some people, and a sex-addicted freak to others. and often people weaponize these things to shame and control others and are themselves often massive hyprocites about their own and other people’s sexual behavior.
To me the irony is always the people who bang 100s of people claiming they can’t be judged negatively for that, any anyone who does is a loser virgin incel… because apparently it’s cool to shame people who don’t have as much sex as they do. same with ‘kink shaming’ nobody kink shames more than the people who go around claiming you shouldn’t kink shame anyone.
people have different definitions for all of this. One person’s extreme kink is another’s boring mundane sex act.
And people will argue with you about it, because they basically think the world revolves around their own perceptions of what is sexually deviant. I have met people who think I’m a sex-addct because I have had sex with more than a dozen people.
Could also be that those kinks already exists in our minds undiscovered and is what creates the draw toward these particular shows in the first place.
Though, most people here are talking about crushes which is a different thing. Personally I really stuggle to draw a line from a kink I have to a show I watched in childhood.
oral sex was once a kink.
Kink is more about what is considered non-normative than anything. Half of what makes a kink kinky is that it’s not something other people normally do. Nobody thinks oral sex is kinky anymore, and increasingly, bdsm and anal are being normalized to the point they are no longer kinks, whereas 30 years ago they would be considered deviant sexual behavior.
Apparently, “kink”, “fetish”, and “things I like in a slightly sexual way, or even just obsess over” all mean the same thing now. Oh, and “obsess” is another such word.
This is one reason it’s so hard to communicate clearly.
Man, communication is hard.
You can say something and someone else interprets it, and they make all the noises to suggest that they understand what you said, but it’s very difficult to be certain that you’re both thinking the same thing. All too often the same words mean something very different to people.
People also use words more loosely in some contexts and more strictly in others. Like the expressions you mentioned could all basically be synonyms in most contexts, but if you were talking to a sexual partner or a sex therapist, you’d probably want to be more exact with the words you use.
But here’s the issue, how do you know how exact someone is being when they’re talking to you? If you’re guessing at their level of precision, then you’re only guessing at their actual meaning. Problematic.
a lot of people also just like being upset and deliberately misinterpreting you for the dramatic high it gives them. especially about something as emotionally charged as sex.
just look at ‘body count’ and how people react to that. my body count makes me a total prude to some people, and a sex-addicted freak to others. and often people weaponize these things to shame and control others and are themselves often massive hyprocites about their own and other people’s sexual behavior.
To me the irony is always the people who bang 100s of people claiming they can’t be judged negatively for that, any anyone who does is a loser virgin incel… because apparently it’s cool to shame people who don’t have as much sex as they do. same with ‘kink shaming’ nobody kink shames more than the people who go around claiming you shouldn’t kink shame anyone.
people have different definitions for all of this. One person’s extreme kink is another’s boring mundane sex act.
And people will argue with you about it, because they basically think the world revolves around their own perceptions of what is sexually deviant. I have met people who think I’m a sex-addct because I have had sex with more than a dozen people.