• fizzle@quokk.au
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    2 months ago

    Im not so sure about that. Of course its fine to not be attracted to different traits, thats not in question. The problem is what we say.

    If someone says they find a phrase impolite, or that they find a meal bland, there’s an implication that the thing has not met that person’s expectations.

    People dont sail around expressing their opinion that they find something unattractive for that very reason.

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      2 months ago

      If someone says they find a phrase impolite, or that they find a meal bland

      And that’s an opinion too. That’s fine.

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        2 months ago

        You chopped my sentence in half in order to avoid acknowledging the point i made?

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          2 months ago

          The second half doesn’t change the essence of the phrase. If it does and I didn’t understand it - please elaborate.

          • fizzle@quokk.au
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            2 months ago

            Having an opinion is fine.

            Stating that you have a negative opinion implies that something is unsatisfactory.

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                2 months ago

                Fine. Continue telling everyone which traits you think make a woman unattractive. Its just your opinion after all.

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        2 months ago

        IMO this isn’t a special case. Most smokers don’t want to be smokers, they are unable to stop. It’s fine that you find smoking unattractive, but telling everyone just makes you a bit of a jerk IMO.

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          2 months ago

          Its wild to me verbalizing turn-ons and turn-offs is considered rude nowadays.

          It used to be considered prudent and realistic.

          Not wasting my time or their time is polite.