• trem@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 days ago

    I mean, maybe, but I seriously would not underestimate the internalized misogony of older women.

    A few years ago, we had an event in our village and I was assigned to do the dishes, along with a handful of younger girls.
    And for whatever reason, my aunt came into the kitchen, saw me in the dishwashing corner and then basically wanted me to say that I was only there to show the girls how to do it, not because I was working there myself.

    Like she was seriously disgruntled when I replied that the girls know just as well how to do it.

    • Malyca@lemmy.zip
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      3 days ago

      I was raised by two women like this and despite my best efforts I have internalized misogyny now. It takes a great deal of effort to overcome, especially when I’m anxious. It did make me determined to make sure my kids don’t suffer the same fate.

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      2 days ago

      I worked with a Gen X nurse who once said to a patient who had told her she was an engineering student that “Oh I’m sure that’s hard! You know us women aren’t good at math.”

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      3 days ago

      The man thought so little about the sentence “Laundry is the best job for a woman because it doesn’t require a lot of thinking” for 12 years that it only occurs to him that he’s been duped, not that he could have misunderstood the whole thing.

      It’s possible the grandmother was saying “of the work that women tended to do (or that she did), laundry is the best one because it doesn’t require a lot of thought.”

      My mom once told me her favorite job she ever had was working at a box factory because it didn’t require a lot of thought. And I was like “fair enough.”

      This guy thinks so little he was angered into productivity for a dozen years.

      • fakeman_pretendname@feddit.uk
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        2 days ago

        “This guy thinks so little he was angered into productivity for a dozen years.”

        I wonder how productive I’d get if I stopped thinking? I might take tomorrow off and think about it…

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    2 days ago

    I find laundry to be zen. But you better empty the fucking dryer or I’m not doing shit.

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    2 days ago

    The lack of thinking is precisely why I like doing laundry. Since it doesn’t exactly require any mental energy to throw in the clothes into the machine, wait an hour or so, take them out, hang them to dry and then take them down and fold them, I get to spend some fairly relaxing time listening to podcasts. Very pleasant.