I think, personally, its less about how hard or soft the sci-fi is and more about how fleshed out the sci and the fi is. Im a big fan of science coming into contact with the unexplained, in an Event Horizon or Doom 3 type of way. The audio logs and background stories of Doom 3 are fantastic and really makes the world feel real and fleshed out.

my husband slapped my butt so hard that my phone flew out of my hand, and hit the wall and shattered. he got me a new one, but we both laughed about it

The Commander? In Terra Invicta??? idk how to run a secret society!

Aurora 4X if you are into very complex strategy games about building an interstellar empire.