I can’t see downvotes anyways 🤷♀️
Honestly a lot of times people doing “well actually…” aren’t acting in good faith, so I don’t blame people for downvoting.
I just find interesting because some of my parents neighbors are like that, but my parents are lesbians, but one of them is quite eggy (not just butch) and they socially treat her as a guy, so the husbands will talk directly with one of my moms but not the other. So I find it a little fascinating how different flavors of sexism try to manage situations outside the norms that were assumed in their making (surprisingly they seem to have no problem with her being a lesbian). Otoh, they’ve had plenty of contractors coming to give bids who just clearly don’t respect either of them because they are women.
Given how frequently it happens even with no male partners or it continues despite the male partner saying to talk to the wife about, I’m am gonna guess it’s pretty uncommon to be the primary factor.