Refusing to reduce complex reality into slogans and clichés since 19XX

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  • Life is a sandbox game but too many people are thinking that there’s a storyline you’re supposed to follow but you’re not - you can live it the way you like.

    We compare our insides to other people’s outsides and wonder why we’re not happy despite following the same script. Well, I don’t think the people you’re modeling your life after are happy either so you’re getting exactly what they’re getting as well - you just were expecting something else.

    Be weird, be eccentric, do what other people aren’t doing, embarrass yourself, be honest and vulnerable, trust your intuition, don’t follow the norms, say what feels scary, disregard reputation management and so on. These are among the things I consider intentional living to entail.

    You can have anything you want - you just can’t have everything you want.



  • It’s luck all the way down. Nobody is ultimately responsible for everything they have (or haven’t) achieved in life.

    They didn’t choose the place they were born in, they didn’t choose the parents they were born to, they didn’t choose their genetics and if you believe in such a thing, they didn’t choose their soul either. They didn’t choose to be healthy, they didn’t choose to be able-bodied, they didn’t choose to be driven, intelligent, lazy, anxious, charismatic or any of the other traits that end up shaping what they do with their life.

    Everything that follows from that point is just the unfolding of those starting conditions plus whatever random events and influences came afterwards. There is no separate “you” standing outside of all that and freely deciding how to play the hand. The feeling of choosing is real as an experience, but the choice itself is the product of prior causes.

    We do things for two reasons: either we want to or we have to. There is no third option. And we don’t get to pick what we want either.