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I need your immediate answer. If I knew you’d answer straight away to a message I’d be fine with that, but I can’t be waiting for the zoomer on the other end to muscle up courage to check my message and maybe answer it at some point
Tbh you have the same issue with people in general with emails.
weird I’m an elder millennial and you just sound unprepared. do I need to hold your hand? why can’t you find the information you need yourself with the resources everyone else uses? why are you always in this state on immediacy? why is your failing someone else’s fault because they didn’t answer “immediately”? why do you sound like my abusive father? it’s almost like you don’t think ahead and blame others for your shortcomings. I have a shit memory and ADHD and I don’t need to “get someone on the horn”.
What is that saying, ‘lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on my part’ or something.
My friends know that they only call me if their house is actively on fire, they are being robbed at gunpoint, or they just won the lottery and want to split the winnings. Family also includes lunch/dinner plans. Only exception is when we have planned a call for a date and time, otherwise you’re greeting my voicemail. Landlines is the exact same situation. I might be taking a shower, asleep, taking a dump, getting freaky with a friend; it doesn’t matter. Leave a text message and I’ll get back as soon as I’m done crying from taco tuesday, or finishing waking up the neighbors with moans and screams, or whatever else.
Email is ‘sometime today’ communication, and gets handled at the beginning or end of the day, or whenever I’m on the can. Anyone expecting a rapid response via email is a proper dunce.
These emergencies come up because the planners (the people I’m trying to urgently reach) haven’t planned properly. Everything is fine if the situation on the ground is the same as they think in the city office or the consulting firm, but once something unexpected comes up that hasn’t been accounted for, I need to reach certain people, quick. We could make decisions on our own but the that’s often specifically not allowed without consulting those certain people…
we’re apparently all just painting hypotheticals/anecdotes so here’s mine
You probably didn’t need an immediate answer, but you wanted one. You also pressured me into making a quick decision based on 2 paragraphs of new information you just dumped on me, expecting me to not only remember all of it, but immediately understand and integrate it into my decision making process.
I’ll probably remember half of your info dump at best and the likelihood of you getting the answer you were hoping for just went down hard because I feel slighted by your ambush and because I don’t feel informed enough to give you a “yes”.
If I did say “yes” we might be in bigger trouble though, since I likely misunderstood or forgot something.
Put it in writing and make both our lives easier.
You can still call if I didn’t reply after 10 minutes.
You can even include your deadline in the message if you have one.
I’m sorry I inconvenienced you while I was down in the dig, waiting for the hole to fill up with mud. I should’ve taken off my gear and typed a whole ass messages, to be answered whenever, because you want to take your time.
I need your immediate answer. If I knew you’d answer straight away to a message I’d be fine with that, but I can’t be waiting for the zoomer on the other end to muscle up courage to check my message and maybe answer it at some point
Tbh you have the same issue with people in general with emails.
weird I’m an elder millennial and you just sound unprepared. do I need to hold your hand? why can’t you find the information you need yourself with the resources everyone else uses? why are you always in this state on immediacy? why is your failing someone else’s fault because they didn’t answer “immediately”? why do you sound like my abusive father? it’s almost like you don’t think ahead and blame others for your shortcomings. I have a shit memory and ADHD and I don’t need to “get someone on the horn”.
git gud n00b
My mate fell in the acid tank.
I am calling you. Immediately.
What is that saying, ‘lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on my part’ or something.
My friends know that they only call me if their house is actively on fire, they are being robbed at gunpoint, or they just won the lottery and want to split the winnings. Family also includes lunch/dinner plans. Only exception is when we have planned a call for a date and time, otherwise you’re greeting my voicemail. Landlines is the exact same situation. I might be taking a shower, asleep, taking a dump, getting freaky with a friend; it doesn’t matter. Leave a text message and I’ll get back as soon as I’m done crying from taco tuesday, or finishing waking up the neighbors with moans and screams, or whatever else.
Email is ‘sometime today’ communication, and gets handled at the beginning or end of the day, or whenever I’m on the can. Anyone expecting a rapid response via email is a proper dunce.
These emergencies come up because the planners (the people I’m trying to urgently reach) haven’t planned properly. Everything is fine if the situation on the ground is the same as they think in the city office or the consulting firm, but once something unexpected comes up that hasn’t been accounted for, I need to reach certain people, quick. We could make decisions on our own but the that’s often specifically not allowed without consulting those certain people…
So plan better or be around to pick up the phone.
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we’re apparently all just painting hypotheticals/anecdotes so here’s mine
You probably didn’t need an immediate answer, but you wanted one. You also pressured me into making a quick decision based on 2 paragraphs of new information you just dumped on me, expecting me to not only remember all of it, but immediately understand and integrate it into my decision making process.
I’ll probably remember half of your info dump at best and the likelihood of you getting the answer you were hoping for just went down hard because I feel slighted by your ambush and because I don’t feel informed enough to give you a “yes”.
If I did say “yes” we might be in bigger trouble though, since I likely misunderstood or forgot something.
Put it in writing and make both our lives easier.
You can still call if I didn’t reply after 10 minutes.
You can even include your deadline in the message if you have one.
I’m sorry I inconvenienced you while I was down in the dig, waiting for the hole to fill up with mud. I should’ve taken off my gear and typed a whole ass messages, to be answered whenever, because you want to take your time.
Lol. Sometimes shit needs an answer right away