• Redditmodstouchgrass@lemmy.zipEnglish
    342·
    5 days ago

    I’m honestly sick to death of people acting like every goddamn kink is rooted in mental illness. This isn’t the 50’s, Freud’s been discredited, so no blaming mommy today!

  • maria ~@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    31·
    5 days ago

    not everything needs to be a post-traumatic thing… one can like feeling safe despite not having had terrible parents or whatever.

    • searabbit@piefed.socialEnglish
      9·
      5 days ago

      I think this also incentivizes not healing from your trauma in order to keep the identity…

      My dad isn’t perfect, and he suffered horrible neglect as a kid which caused narcissistic tendencies and definitely left a mark on us kids, but I’d say I’m pretty over the “trauma” aspect of it. We have a good relationship now. However, I still want to be someone’s cute puppy girl uwu (/jk)

          • maria ~@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            1·
            3 days ago

            heyhi <3

            i’m fiiiiiiiiiiiiine ~ not much happening. mostly sitting and thinking what to post. and eating spicy noodles and then complaining about tummy ache.

            i yearn for - conversations.

            • Vivian@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
              1·
              3 days ago

              mmmmm spicy noodles. I’m sorry about your tummy ache. I’ll send you my matrix if you want conversations LOL or if you wanna chat in this thread we could

              What is your favorite song you’ve listened to in the last week?

              • maria ~@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
                0·
                3 days ago

                oh nono the tummy char just comes from the noodles so this is infact a loop I could break >v<

                I got some fellows on matrix already but we don’t yap all too much and its never bad to have moooore ~ was honestly also more referring to real life peeps, I’m in kiiinda a bit of a havent-met-friends-in-months situation and… am waiting fir schools to go again essentially.

                fav song? Hmm ive been looping this one song from recent rhythm game… besides that really not much.

                • Vivian@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
                  1·
                  3 days ago

                  I’m still sorry about the tummy ache :3 you don’t deserve the self-inflicted pain 🙃

                  Make sense about in-person conversations, I always get weird and sentimental and stuff when I don’t see people for too long

                  Oh hell yeah I love bossa nova :) He’s talking about garlic and crab and bread and stuff LOL. Yum. Check out João Gilberto if you want more of that kinda music

                  Ok I can send you my matrix in case you decide you wanna chat ☺️

  • squirrel@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    29·
    5 days ago

    This totally does not apply to me, because my only value was my conforming to the expectations of my conflict-laden surroundings which could never be fulfilled because of their contradictory nature. So I am fine. I totally did not transition way too late because I was trapped in a behavioral pattern since my childhood and neglected my own needs. I so do not have cPTSD, thank you very much.

  • Bombastic@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    16·
    5 days ago

    I have no idea what any of that means and I feel like I’m not losing that much by not knowing

  • wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    13·
    5 days ago

    Overly online A(u)DHD person “Get mental health care instead of latching onto an online personality stereotype” challenge! Level: impossible.

    (All meant in good fun. Everyone has a different path to better. I seriously do recommend therapy if you can find a good therapist though. I maybe could have worked through the shit they’re helping me with on my own, but I’ve made more progress towards who I want to be in a few months than I have in years.)

  • HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    9·
    3 days ago

    …

    I only SOMETIMES have memory gaps it’s fiiiiiiine 👍

    “Bitch, you are anything but fine.”

    Perfectly fine, shush gecko 🤏

    “Recall everything that happened yesterday.”

    Initially only remembered the evening, then visiting the woods, and it took a moment to realise we worked from home, and that’s basically all I remember

    “The day before that?”

    Fuck off 💀💀💀

    “Uh-huh. Recall a single day before that.”

    Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh… uuuhhhhhh

    “Definitely just ADHD. Enjoy the voices in your head, puppygirl.”

    TwT

    EDIT: Just to confirm we looked at diagnostic criteria for C-PTSD and talked with two friends who are familiar with it then another with it and we 100% have it 💀

    EDIT 2 ELECTIRCCHCJKC: Partner confirmation TwT

  • applebusch (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    5 days ago

    yes yes, very accurate. the question is, does it help? im not a puppy girl but id be willing to give it a try if it gave me some relief from the internalized unrealistic expectations of my parents.