• h4lf8yte@lemmy.ml
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    12 days ago

    Ah yes, how to succeed in life in a fundamentally broken society that values exploitation over everything else. Couldn’t think of a better metric for choosing a partner.

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      12 days ago

      Yes, it is. Someone who can do well in society and their lives while being generally good to those around them is often considered a good catch.

      Thinking that anyone who succeeds in life in our society must be one of the like, less than 10% who are ghouls is odd.

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        12 days ago

        Beeing generally happy and doing well while simultaneously profiting from a society that is build on genocide, exploitation of natural resources and imperialism is such a twisted concept. Even if not part of the 10%.

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          12 days ago

          Gotcha. So would you rank yourself as mostly unhappy, destitute and unwell?

          Can you think of anyone in our society who’s doing alright within the confines of a broken system, or do you think that everyone’s existence is inseperable from the context of that existence, even if the means of changing it or it’s impact are outside of their reach? Somewhere in the middle?

          I met a guy who helps manage a homeless shelter and food bank. Stand-up guy. Makes ends meet, is doing what he can where he can. Generally happy guy with a family. Pretty twisted right? Or my former coworker who let his gardening hobby get out of hand and ended up running a community garden that retrofitted two houses to donate to families in need.

          People exist in their circumstances, but they’re not defined by them. How you react to those circumstances speaks to your character, not that you exist in them.

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            11 days ago

            How you react to those circumstances speaks for your character

            Being able to ignore the bigger picture because you can change your own privileged surroundings IS the problematic reaction that speaks for your character

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              11 days ago

              Gotcha, so doing good where you can makes you evil unless you’re mired in torment over things beyond your control? By that metric everyone in the world is evil.

              I can’t fathom an ethical system that requires you to be unhappy about things beyond your control once you’ve done the good that you can.

              What constitutes “good character” to you? What constitutes “success”?

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                11 days ago

                Yes it is called empathy, it’s nothing you can buy yourself out of by doing good things. If you are somehow interested in the well being of the people it just doesn’t magically disappear after helping some of them. It doesn’t make you evil but it’s certainly not a good sign to weigh these things against each other. The ability to feel good while seeing the world suffer seems to me problematic.

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                  11 days ago

                  Gotcha. So when was the last time you were happy? I take it you simply do not do things you enjoy?

                  And when did I say anything even remotely like not feeling empathy for suffering, or that caring for people disappears after doing a good deed? Empathy isn’t an ethical system.

                  I’m actually curious what behavior you think would be non-problematic, and if any human actually does that.

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                    11 days ago

                    You’re the only one talking about abstract ethical systems. The original discussion is about being a good catch for doing good in life. And doing good in terms of being generally happy (your interpretation) while seeing the world suffer is the opposite of being empathic. Because empathy is a valuable good in relationships. So this is in my view not the best catch but there are levels to this.