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  • univers3man@piefed.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•All men ruleEnglish
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    21 days ago

    I was going to post this as a reply, but I decided to make it a top comment since it’s more a comment about the post itself.

    I am not gonna be the best at explaining myself, and I am feeling hurt from this so I am a bit emotional, but here goes.

    I try my best to be an ally. I speak up when things aren’t right or people are uncomfortable wherever I am. I haven’t been in any real situations where I have had to physically intervene, but that’s more because I am a homebody and I don’t generally go to clubs or parties where I don’t know anyone.

    I do hurt from this, so I don’t like how you assume I wouldn’t. I don’t believe I am in the group that is meant by “all men”, because I have done the right thing in the past. However, that doesn’t stop it from hurting.

    What I interpret from the posted meme is that there is no room for discussion. All men are bad no matter what. I understand the point being made that any one random man has a greater than 50/50 chance to be bad and that the stakes are too high to take a chance.

    What I understand from reading this post and it’s conversation in general is that I need to continue being an ally, but that when I see anyone say “all men” I just need to shut up and accept it.

    I’m not going to stop being an ally or doing the right thing just because it hurts, but I will stop talking about it since it just comes of as comparing traumas which I don’t want to do or be seen as doing. I will say it does make me want to talk less about my feelings in general though.

    I just wanted to put what I feel about this out there so I can let it go. I don’t want or intend for anyone to think I am making this about me, or that men have it as bad as women in any way. Sorry for posting this I guess.