It sucked being the kid at summer camp that never got mail. I figured jail was similar, so I made sure he had mail. I didn’t always have much to say, so often I’d send a greeting card filled with writing or sometimes just a post card. The act of sending/getting mail was the important bit.

Back when my brother was in jail, I was personally boosting that percentage by writing to him every week. Sometimes, he’d even write back. (some/most jails are wicked restrictive on correspondence and Internet access, and a letter is much cheaper than a jail phone conversation.)

The other day, I heard “PDF file” as a substitute for “pedophile”. I kind of liked that one.

edit: it was in a name-and-shame video, discussing someone’s poor behavior. The suspected pedophilia was just part of the concern regarding the person’s behavior.

tbh, “deflowered” sounds grosser to me than “rape”, in this context. It’s like spraying perfume at a cess pool: highlighting the ick by pretending to disguise it.

In other words, the term “rape” feels clinical and accurate to me. “Deflowered” feels emotional and super gross to me. Neither downplays it for me.

YMMV because emotions and feelings are like they are and your feelings are are as valid as mine.