You also shouldn’t try to control your kindness. If you are giving it away because you hope someone else will find use from it… Then that is the end of your need to control it. They can sell it and use the money to buy shoes and or other things they need or want.
The point is that OP wanted to be kind in a specific way and would rather enrich themselves if it couldn’t be met. Thats not kindness.
People have this really wrong idea that the internet is a great place to organize because it exists. Honestly its a pretty garbage one.
We all agree that there are algorithms to keep us engaged which does not include leaving the house and getting back to doing things.
Fast communication through our connected world is useful but this idea that the internet or media at large is good “getting people to your side” is just wasted nonsense by people who have found a new faith in the “infinite” internet and think their prayers to it are heard more because they believe.