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I don’t know, I just got back from a weekend canoeing trip with 12 other people from the frat days and felt pretty connected with everyone. Some of them I hadn’t seen since last year’s canoe trip, but we built a connection long ago and were able to pick things up from where we left off. Some people had life updates that got shared, but most of us didn’t say anything because not much had changed.
Our group might be different in that it was small for a fraternity and therefore easier to avoid too much cliquiness and I could also just be lucky. It just rubs me the wrong way a little to discount frats and clubs as places to form meaningful relationships when it’s been the best place for me to do so.
It just rubs me the wrong way a little to discount frats and clubs as places to form meaningful relationships when it’s been the best place for me to do so.
I didn’t say they couldn’t be meaningful, just that they weren’t very meaningful to me, and that they seemed to lack deep emotional connections.
As you said most of you hadn’t really connected since the last trip and didn’t have much to share as far as life updates.
I don’t really see that as having a deep emotional connection. I’m closer to my best friend than I am with my family. I know how they are doing, what they are struggling with, we talk about our relationships, our careers, and our families. I can trust them implicitly with my health, wealth, and happiness and they can count on me to do the same for them.
I don’t know, I just got back from a weekend canoeing trip with 12 other people from the frat days and felt pretty connected with everyone. Some of them I hadn’t seen since last year’s canoe trip, but we built a connection long ago and were able to pick things up from where we left off. Some people had life updates that got shared, but most of us didn’t say anything because not much had changed.
Our group might be different in that it was small for a fraternity and therefore easier to avoid too much cliquiness and I could also just be lucky. It just rubs me the wrong way a little to discount frats and clubs as places to form meaningful relationships when it’s been the best place for me to do so.
I didn’t say they couldn’t be meaningful, just that they weren’t very meaningful to me, and that they seemed to lack deep emotional connections.
As you said most of you hadn’t really connected since the last trip and didn’t have much to share as far as life updates.
I don’t really see that as having a deep emotional connection. I’m closer to my best friend than I am with my family. I know how they are doing, what they are struggling with, we talk about our relationships, our careers, and our families. I can trust them implicitly with my health, wealth, and happiness and they can count on me to do the same for them.