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I think we often forget about “young man” and “young woman.”
When someone is too young to safely call a woman, “young woman” is quite a compliment and gives her the respect of an adult anyway. If someone is just barely too old to be called a girl, they will probably find it neutral enough. And if someone is much too old to be called a girl they will appreciate it as flattery.
I guess I can see some ways that “lady” or “ladies” could sound sleazy but I’m surprised if this is someone’s first or only association. “Lady” is literally a landed title, the equivalent of “Lord,” and the highly dignified counterpart to “gentleman.”
“Ladies” can come across as sleazy, imo. And sometimes you’re in a situation where the class/status suggested by “lady” ends up sounding sarcastic.
“Gals” implies a level of friendship, and “dames” is too old timey.
It’s a tight rope walk of sounding too familiar/formal, implying old/young, or being insulting/demeaning… I conclude that we need a new word.
Just say ‘women’
To quote the earlier comment:
Yes, I read that. I also read your comment und you concluded (somewhat jokingly, I know), that ‘we’ need a new word for ‘women’.
My, now more elaborate, response to that is, that ‘we’ don’t need a new word, you should learn to use the perfectly cromulent available ones.
I think we often forget about “young man” and “young woman.”
When someone is too young to safely call a woman, “young woman” is quite a compliment and gives her the respect of an adult anyway. If someone is just barely too old to be called a girl, they will probably find it neutral enough. And if someone is much too old to be called a girl they will appreciate it as flattery.
I guess I can see some ways that “lady” or “ladies” could sound sleazy but I’m surprised if this is someone’s first or only association. “Lady” is literally a landed title, the equivalent of “Lord,” and the highly dignified counterpart to “gentleman.”
No no, definitely not what I meant! In some circumstances, it can be sleazy (like “hey ladies”).