• username123@sh.itjust.works
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    12 days ago

    No, no. You see, anything that would cause a privileged modern person discomfort is abuse. This includes the idea that the world is a tough place, the idea of anti-fragility as a mental adaptation to it, or even useful negativity; the idea that it could take actual blood, sweat, and tears to achieve something, they’re all abuse. /s ig.

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      11 days ago

      anything that would cause a privileged modern person discomfort

      When finished, the boy’s hand and part of his arm are temporarily paralyzed due to the ant venom. In addition to suffering severely extreme and intense pain, he may hallucinate and shake uncontrollably for days.

      Pick one.

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        11 days ago

        Well if I must pick between:

        • an excerpt of my sarcastic strawman meant to roast the mentality of the type of person I have pegged you for (based you on your own initial strawman) and not a perfectly accurate characterization of the original scenario itself, and
        • accepting a somewhat sensationalized temporary aspect of a pain ritual meant as mental conditioning available to sovereign people…

        “Picking” becomes silly, your false dichotomy is a sham. Pointing out differences between similar and adjacent concepts used for different purposes doesn’t actually prop up yours, it just shows I took liberties to roast people like you, because I think people like you also do the same over lesser situations.

        As a side note on nuances being ignored here, the one source here says days, others say hours. I’m sure enough it varies by person and actual dosage, as always. This kind of rough characterization and cherry-picking for the sake of impact should be expected from all sources as a foundation of critical thinking. Males in that tribe willingly go through that ceremony 20+ times in their lifetime.

        Pearl-clutching your way into validating pain-avoidance as a priority worth pursuing over other practical aspects of life might be the way for you, but it’s not watertight enough to impose on others.

        https://www.theguardian.com/childrens-books-site/2013/jul/17/steve-backshall-interview

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          11 days ago

          Pearl-clutching your way into validating pain-avoidance as a priority worth pursuing over other practical aspects of life might be the way for you, but it’s not watertight enough to impose on others.

          Perfection

          Let’s put that person outside for a few months and see how they do

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          10 days ago

          Lol, you say not everyone shakes for days, the Wikipedia article doesn’t say that either, it says may shake for days. The irony of indirectly accusing others of not thinking critically and not even reading properly in the first place.

          Pearl-clutching your way into validating pain-avoidance as a priority worth pursuing over other practical aspects of life might be the way for you, but it’s not watertight enough to impose on others.

          The mental gymnastics here are astounding. There’s a difference between not doing pain avoidance and a fucking torture ritual. Or is that another sarcastic strawman again? (I guess I shouldn’t takes your texts seriously?)

          I’m not imposing anything. If someone who is fully capable (read: adult) of making the decision and decides to subject themselves to a torture ritual like that - their decision. I have a problem with kids at an impressionable age being pressured into it. And before you come up with “they’re different” or something: they’re still… What do you call them again? Oh, right, humans! And humans’ brains are only fully developed at age 25. Age 12 isn’t even at the fucking halfway point.

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      12 days ago

      That’s really not what unknownuserunknownlocation@kbin.earth is saying or the point they are making, which is a fair one. Kicking it out of way by waving a big “cultural relativism” sign doesn’t do anything to address it.

      If one was so inclined, one could even argue that whole idea that an 11 year old indigenous boy is somehow more grown up and “a man” is essentially the same as the racist outlook that considers black boys to no longer be kids but dangerous men when they get closer to their teens.

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        12 days ago

        unknownuser’s argument is that the boy couldn’t consent because he’d be surrounded by people telling him that the only way to be a leader is to take the ritual. The quote, verbatim:

        The boy was told by everyone around him if he wanted to be a leader he had to do it, at an age where kids are pretty impressionable and also are dying to make an impression

        If that’s all it takes to remove consent, then we might as well isolate every children from other people.

        I sincerely doubt anyone in the group would be telling him “you should totally do it! It’ll be awesome!”, but rather that he better think twice before doing it and what to expect in the immediate aftermath of the ritual, not in a “you might feel” but in a “you will feel” way, because those stings are no joke. I wouldn’t be surprised if the boy even went so far as to take a single sting sometime before the ritual just to know how deep in shit he’d be.

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        Indigenous people, living immersed in the natural world, deciding that an 11 year old is old enough to decide on their own start a journey into adulthood while surrounded by adults who care deeply for them,

        Is absolutely nothing like a racist white person deciding that an 11 year old black child should be ripped from their family and treated as an adult against their will.

        That’s such an insane comparison that your intentions come into severe question.

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          If you don’t see how there’s a similarity in the othering of non-white boys leading to consider them to be grown up earlier, I think you might be falling prey to some racist bias yourself.

          I’m all for taking context into consideration but biology doesn’t care about cultural relativism, an 11 year old human boy can’t make fully-informed decisions. That was the point being made and the point stands.

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            It has nothing to do with cultural relativism and everything to do with who is doing the considering and why. Gtfo with that racist bias shit, while comparing indigenous rituals to one of the most odious crimes of “post slavery” american racism.

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          11 days ago

          while surrounded by adults who care deeply for them

          The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Many people do fucked up things to others believing it’s in their best interest. Still doesn’t excuse it.

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        12 days ago

        Oor, hear me out, ideas around morality and consent in the more nuanced-filled space of what would be considered psychological damage versus mental training are undoubtedly biased by the way any observer is raised and so impossible to claim that they can have absolute moral judgments placed on them without taking cultural relativism into account.

        They made the big bold claims and moral accusations first.

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            11 days ago

            Hm, or maybe you should allow them to partake in mental training because it could help them overcome challenges more efficiently in the future, making the trade-off worthwhile. I know the ideas of conditioning and building tolerance might be foreign to you, but they’re not foreign to everyone. This isn’t settled science or anything, so for the moment you might have to take a seat down from your high horse and accept the possibility of alternate views existing with plausible arguments behind them.

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              the ideas of conditioning and building tolerance might be foreign to you

              I feel some very strong projection vibes here. Also, conditioning yourself to pain doesn’t work by going from zero to one of the most painful things known to man.

              I mean, there were (are?) Alternative cultures that see pedophilia favorably. I’m not exactly about to warm up to that, either.

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                10 days ago

                Omg not the vibes - oh my lord, a whole zero!?! To sixty?!! 😦

                Dial 911 and ask to speak to the president.