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the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they’re incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you’re locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it’s a nightmare. REALLY don’t have kids with people you haven’t lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life, also, you can’t out run, out think, or recognize your truama, you are you, and you can’t not you. therapy early and often.
well if anything else, please care about yourself. it’s deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.
meh … lots of married people don’t love each other either.
married 17 years, can confirm.
But…why?
the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they’re incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you’re locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it’s a nightmare. REALLY don’t have kids with people you haven’t lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life, also, you can’t out run, out think, or recognize your truama, you are you, and you can’t not you. therapy early and often.
Sorry, I guess you do what you have to do until they are 18.
No, I cannot do therapy, simply not feasible atm at all. Not time-wise, not economy wise, I’d get fired for that here.
well if anything else, please care about yourself. it’s deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.