• Noobnarski@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Only if she was writing after the date, if they both never wrote each other there is no ghosting involved.

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      1 month ago

      To me it still leaves things ambiguous. Especially obvious in cases like this where one party thinks the date went completely fine

      • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        1 month ago

        Nah. Definitely not. Standard hard lesson you gotta learn when dating is that if the person doesn’t want to talk to you after the first date, that’s it. Move on.

        I had a date many years ago with a friend of a friend who I didn’t like at all after about 30 mins into the date. I paid for the meal, we chatted by our cars, and both left. I thought it was mutually a “nah”. Boyyyyyyy was I wrong.

        I guess to some people, you are the only date they’re going on this decade, and it matters a lot.

        But those people are too out of touch. It was one date. No sex, no kiss, no spark. An hour or two at most. Move on. I shouldn’t have to put somebody down after THAT much body language and lack of anything else. The message is communicated. I shouldn’t have to look them in the eyes and literally tell them I’m not interested.

        Like, if it’s vague or middle of the road, fine. If it’s a second date or later, fine. If we decide to hook up anyway, then yeah that needs to be clarified. But not after one short date with nothing but awkward silence and no chemistry.

        Like, remember what you’re there for: to meet somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with. If there isn’t a spark, there isn’t a spark. And if you’re there to hook up, then obviously this doesn’t need to be said.