If this happened to you you should probably stay away from those people and find your self a better match. Ofcourse I might be overshooting because I don’t have enough context.
It can be difficult to find people who are well-socialized. 😟
Not everyone is always going to always be interested in everything you have to say, but when someone responds to that feeling by calling you annoying or telling you to shut up?
That is no longer your problem - that is THEIRS. That’s an inappropriate, childish response to someone’s enthusiasm, and frankly, you deserve better friends than that.
Being the youngest in a big family, this happened to me constantly. I have now become a recluse and feel bad about myself when I have almost any social interaction where I get excited about something.
“Fuck you, let people enjoy things”
Don’t yuck my yum. 😋
Unless they derive their joy from belittling others.
My wife, an elementary school teacher, told me about this phenomenon where the kids would get really excited about doing something and for some practical reason she had to tell them they couldn’t do it. She hated to see “their little shoulders fall.” We noticed our own kids doing the shoulder thing when we had to cancel plans, ran out of ice cream or whatever. It’s a very deflated gesture.
Shut up this is too much text. Next time add a few onomatopoeias.
I don’t understand this comment, or why it’s getting so douchevoted. Oh well.
Had this happen so much I just started doing it to myself unconsciously lol
Finding good friends is hard, but well worth it. Big hugs, and don’t give up on your excitement or dreams just because of some jerk!
So positive!
I still remember my group of friends in elementary school back when Pokémon was getting very popular.
One of the kids was so genuinely nice, a bigger kid who was obsessed with both Star Trek and the Honey I Shrunk series of movies. But he would talk about Star Trek a lot more. One day he was talking about it, probably a new episode of New Generation and one of my other friends turned to him and said, “Can you shut up about Star Trek? We’re all into Pokémon now. No one cares about that crap.”
You could just see the look of sadness on that kid’s face. I hate that I didn’t speak up for him. Everyone else went silent too. Then he started talking about Pikachu and trying to relate to Pokémon instead of what he wanted to talk about :/
He was just excited and trying to connect with the people he felt close to…
If you get told to shut up enough times you get the “Are you shy? Why do you never talk about yourself or what you like?” achievement.
Fuck this was my childhood right there
Same. Also my first long term relationship (which was awful in many other ways)
Same. I hope you made it past those toxic fucks and found happiness. Consider yourself hugged.
Same, though being exited or enthusiastic about anything was permanently killed off back then.
Or you could just not let those people have power over you. They think you’re annoying? They want you to stop?
No. Just NO. And then go on and be as happy and excited as you like. Let THEM be unhappy, not you.
I don’t need anyone to tell me that to feel that way. I just do that on my own.
I mean, possibly because someone did it to you enough growing up?
When people tell you who they are, listen. And as needed, toss them aside.
I heard it as: “The best time to cut ties with someone is when staying connected with them would deorive you of the idealized version of them.” Seems good for positivity and avoids blame.