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Cake day: September 11th, 2023

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  • By modern standards, you didn’t really get ghosted. That text was him calling it off. It sucks, but I’m afraid that’s about as good as you’re probably gonna get.

    I’ve been in your shoes, wracked my brain trying to think about everything I might have done wrong and wishing they’d tell me exactly why they weren’t interested so I could try to fix it.

    I’ve also been the guy in this situation, having figured out that I’m not interested in the person and struggling to put it into words. Maybe the vibe wasn’t right, maybe we had different expectations, maybe there’s nothing wrong with them physically but yet for some reason I’m just not attracted to them. I’m ashamed to admit I have just ghosted people because it’s easier than telling them the truth. Maybe the times I got ghosted in return was some sorta karma.

    You shouldn’t blame yourself or assume anything is wrong. It sounds like this guy just had different expectations about some things, and that’s perfectly fine. You shouldn’t try to look for anything you need to change about yourself just to find a partner. Keep looking for someone who’s willing to accept you as you are.